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“Inspirational Idiot”

//“Inspirational Idiot”

“Inspirational Idiot”

For every story of joy, eternal bliss, and happy endings are another hundred stories of tragedy, sorrow, and nice guys finishing last.  No matter which of these stories you relate to the most, they inevitably mold you into the person you were destined to be for the rest of your life. Mental health can be the fork in the road of that journey. Whatever plans you made yesterday are about to be altered forever once you get that mental illness label slapped next to your name on a medical chart. It happens to the rich and the poor, the strong and the weak, and everyone in between. I was mentally ill long before I knew there was a name for it and most certainly before I became aware of the chain of events that would ultimately change the path I had chosen into the path I was destined to be on. Twenty-six different medications, three suicide attempts, endless “professionals”, a love affair with cocaine, and constant shame and fear for over 12 years straight accomplished absolutely nothing for me. I have always been an outsider looking in…Wanting so bad what was on the other side of the figurative glass…Desperately wanting to know when I was going to be normal like all of those around me on the other side of that glass. Hockey Hall of Famer Brett Hull once said, “Youth and enthusiasm will only take you so far. I’d rather be old and smart than young and dumb any day.”  Professional athletes are much like Hollywood stars… They should never be taken as seriously as they take themselves. But once in a blue moon even someone like Brett Hull can throw out a pearl of wisdom like that and make you think twice. Personally, if I had the chance to try out for my youth again in the hopes of getting it right the second time, there’s no dollar amount high enough to get me in the DeLorean to go Back to the Future. If I hadn’t gone through the rage and fear for all of those years, I would not be able to embrace the challenges, the dangers, and the unknown conclusion of my long strange trip in the valley of the loony’s today.

Two weeks ago, I was kindly invited to speak to the board of directors of the CMHA.  I touched on the subject of inspiration in my speech briefly but I have written about it personally for several years.  Every person I look up to is based almost purely on the inspiration they instill in me to think that not only is the impossible possible, but the  possibilities are also endless. When I’m inspired by something or someone, I’m passionate…Joyous…Insightf­ul. But when I get discouraged, I’m beyond depressed. I need to remind myself of this almost daily…That if I don’t want to be sad or depressed I need to fight against being discouraged. And when I need to feel passionate about anything at all nothing compares to being inspired. If you have a shadow of doubt about just how much words can inspire greatness, hope, and love, look no further than the words of the late great comedian Bill Hicks.

“The world is like a ride in an amusement park, and when you choose to go on it you think it’s real because that’s how powerful our minds are. The ride goes up and down, around and around, it has thrills and chills, and it’s very brightly colored, and it’s very loud, and it’s fun for a while. Many people have been on the ride a long time, and they begin to wonder, “Hey, is this real, or is this just a ride?” And other people have remembered, and they come back to us and say, “Hey, don’t worry; don’t be afraid, ever, because this is just a ride.” And we … kill those people. “Shut him up! I’ve got a lot invested in this ride, shut him up! Look at my furrows of worry, look at my big bank account, and my family. This has to be real.” It’s just a ride. But we always kill the good guys who try and tell us that, you ever notice that? And let the demons run amok … But it doesn’t matter, because it’s just a ride. And we can change it any time we want. It’s only a choice. No effort, no work, no job, no savings of money. Just a simple choice, right now, between fear and love. The eyes of fear want you to put bigger locks on your doors, buy guns, close yourself off. The eyes of love instead see all of us as one. Here’s what we can do to change the world, right now, to a better ride. Take all that money we spend on weapons and defenses each year and instead spend it feeding and clothing and educating the poor of the world, which it would pay for many times over, not one human being excluded, and we could explore space, together, both inner and outer, forever, in peace.”

As I have tried to write something original and unique to say to you in my style of the spoken word, I feel I am going to come up just a little bit short in closing.  Like another late great comedian, Mitch Hedberg, once said,  “You need to start strong and end strong. You can’t be like pancakes… All exciting at first, but by the end you’re f***** sick of them.”  I can only hope that I started this thing strong, but to close even stronger I must turn to the genius of Dr. Hunter S Thompson…The most profound literary inspiration of mine for over half of my life.  So much of what I want to say today with pinpoint accuracy is not going to come close to what I would like you to hear now. Even as I write this at 11 o’clock at night I’m becoming more excited than nervous to share this with you all in a few short hours. It’s my desperate attempt to show you what someone else has inspired me to share.  And, hopefully, it inspires you to think, “This Sean guy… He might actually be on to something here.” I don’t claim to have all the answers, and I may not have the keys to a personal kingdom yet.  But, at the very least, I think I might have a clue. The following is a letter written by Dr. Thompson to his childhood friend, Hume Logan, who wrote Thompson asking for some career advice:

April 22, 1958
57 Perry Street
New York City
Dear Hume,
You ask advice: ah, what a very human and very dangerous thing to do! For to give advice to a man who asks what to do with his life implies something very close to egomania. To presume to point a man to the right and ultimate goal— to point with a trembling finger in the RIGHT direction is something only a fool would take upon himself.

I am not a fool, but I respect your sincerity in asking my advice. I ask you though, in listening to what I say, to remember that all advice can only be a product of the man who gives it. What is truth to one may be disaster to another. I do not see life through your eyes, nor you through mine. If I were to attempt to give you specific advice, it would be too much like the blind leading the blind.

“To be, or not to be: that is the question: Whether ’tis nobler in the mind to suffer the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune, or to take arms against a sea of troubles … ” (Shakespeare)

And indeed, that IS the question: whether to float with the tide, or to swim for a goal. It is a choice we must all make consciously or unconsciously at one time in our lives. So few people understand this! Think of any decision you’ve ever made which had a bearing on your future: I may be wrong, but I don’t see how it could have been anything but a choice however indirect— between the two things I’ve mentioned: the floating or the swimming.

But why not float if you have no goal? That is another question. It is unquestionably better to enjoy the floating than to swim in uncertainty. So how does a man find a goal? Not a castle in the stars, but a real and tangible thing. How can a man be sure he’s not after the “big rock candy mountain,” the enticing sugar-candy goal that has little taste and no substance?

The answer— and, in a sense, the tragedy of life— is that we seek to understand the goal and not the man. We set up a goal which demands of us certain things: and we do these things. We adjust to the demands of a concept which CANNOT be valid. When you were young, let us say that you wanted to be a fireman. I feel reasonably safe in saying that you no longer want to be a fireman. Why? Because your perspective has changed. It’s not the fireman who has changed, but you. Every man is the sum total of his reactions to experience. As your experiences differ and multiply, you become a different man, and hence your perspective changes. This goes on and on. Every reaction is a learning process; every significant experience alters your perspective.

So it would seem foolish, would it not, to adjust our lives to the demands of a goal we see from a different angle every day? How could we ever hope to accomplish anything other than galloping neurosis?

The answer, then, must not deal with goals at all, or not with tangible goals, anyway. It would take reams of paper to develop this subject to fulfillment. God only knows how many books have been written on “the meaning of man” and that sort of thing, and god only knows how many people have pondered the subject. (I use the term “god only knows” purely as an expression.) There’s very little sense in my trying to give it up to you in the proverbial nutshell, because I’m the first to admit my absolute lack of qualifications for reducing the meaning of life to one or two paragraphs.

I’m going to steer clear of the word “existentialism,” but you might keep it in mind as a key of sorts. You might also try something called Being and Nothingness by Jean-Paul Sartre, and another little thing called Existentialism: From Dostoyevsky to Sartre. These are merely suggestions. If you’re genuinely satisfied with what you are and what you’re doing, then give those books a wide berth. (Let sleeping dogs lie.) But back to the answer. As I said, to put our faith in tangible goals would seem to be, at best, unwise. So we do not strive to be firemen, we do not strive to be bankers, nor policemen, nor doctors. WE STRIVE TO BE OURSELVES.

But don’t misunderstand me. I don’t mean that we can’t BE firemen, bankers, or doctors— but that we must make the goal conform to the individual, rather than make the individual conform to the goal. In every man, heredity and environment have combined to produce a creature of certain abilities and desires— including a deeply ingrained need to function in such a way that his life will be MEANINGFUL. A man has to BE something; he has to matter.

As I see it then, the formula runs something like this: a man must choose a path which will let his ABILITIES function at maximum efficiency toward the gratification of his DESIRES. In doing this, he is fulfilling a need (giving himself identity by functioning in a set pattern toward a set goal), he avoids frustrating his potential (choosing a path which puts no limit on his self-development), and he avoids the terror of seeing his goal wilt or lose its charm as he draws closer to it (rather than bending himself to meet the demands of that which he seeks, he has bent his goal to conform to his own abilities and desires).
In short, he has not dedicated his life to reaching a pre-defined goal, but he has rather chosen a way of life he KNOWS he will enjoy. The goal is absolutely secondary: it is the functioning toward the goal which is important. And it seems almost ridiculous to say that a man MUST function in a pattern of his own choosing; for to let another man define your own goals is to give up one of the most meaningful aspects of life— the definitive act of will which makes a man an individual.

Let’s assume that you think you have a choice of eight paths to follow (all pre-defined paths, of course). And let’s assume that you can’t see any real purpose in any of the eight. THEN— and here is the essence of all I’ve said— you MUST FIND A NINTH PATH.

Naturally, it isn’t as easy as it sounds. You’ve lived a relatively narrow life, a vertical rather than a horizontal existence. So it isn’t any too difficult to understand why you seem to feel the way you do. But a man who procrastinates in his CHOOSING will inevitably have his choice made for him by circumstance.

So if you now number yourself among the disenchanted, then you have no choice but to accept things as they are, or to seriously seek something else. But beware of looking for goals: look for a way of life. Decide how you want to live and then see what you can do to make a living WITHIN that way of life. But you say, “I don’t know where to look; I don’t know what to look for.”

And there’s the crux. Is it worth giving up what I have to look for something better? I don’t know— is it? Who can make that decision but you? But even by DECIDING TO LOOK, you go a long way toward making the choice.

If I don’t call this to a halt, I’m going to find myself writing a book. I hope it’s not as confusing as it looks at first glance. Keep in mind, of course, that this is MY WAY of looking at things. I happen to think that it’s pretty generally applicable, but you may not. Each of us has to create our own credo— this merely happens to be mine.

If any part of it doesn’t seem to make sense, by all means call it to my attention. I’m not trying to send you out “on the road” in search of Valhalla, but merely pointing out that it is not necessary to accept the choices handed down to you by life as you know it. There is more to it than that— no one HAS to do something he doesn’t want to do for the rest of his life. But then again, if that’s what you wind up doing, by all means convince yourself that you HAD to do it. You’ll have lots of company.

And that’s it for now. Until I hear from you again, I remain,
your friend,
Hunter

That’s just a letter he wrote to a friend…It was never meant to be printed, or read by the masses. But it also happens to be one of the greatest pieces Hunter S. Thompson ever wrote. It’s eloquent, insightful, and honest.  At the end of the day, that’s all I can ever hope to be more than anything else…So here’s hoping. I’m still learning how to smile all the time. And besides, the point of the journey is not to arrive.

– Sean L. Hampson